Is it hard for you to be “wrong"? Welcome to the club!
The bottom line is that there are lots of reasons/ways that we might be “wrong” in our relationships and its ok. In fact, there’s usually something really sweet at the core of a “who’s right” argument; you BOTH care about what the other person thinks of you. Sometimes these “who’s right” arguments have been going on for so long, its hard to believe that your partner really is worried about what you think of them. It looks to you like they are just stubborn. Lots of couples say “We are both just such stubborn people.” But when we take it apart, its almost always about saving-face in front of each other. Within the concern of what the other person thinks of us, we find a few common snags and I have several tips for each of these snags.
COMMON SNAGS:
Its not safe to put your dukes down
Your self-worth is wrapped up in being smart/right
Its actually about emotion, not information at all
It might just feel wrong/bad to let the topic go. Maybe this is because of your profession, or your upbringing, or your identity. Whatever the reason, this rigid strategy of being right is usually not best serving your relationship.
My following three blog posts will break down each of these common snags and give some tips on how to get unsnagged.
